When the Healer Gets Humbled

Even Healers Have Bad Weekends

There's a saying in spiritual circles: when you think you're healed, go visit your family. That'll tell you the truth real quick.

This past weekend, I made a mess. I hurt a family member. And I sat with it — not just the guilt, but the deeper question: why do I keep doing this?

My husband has said to me more than once, "You teach this stuff and then you don't do it." And he's right. I'm not perfect. I've never claimed to be. The reason I teach these principles is because I've been exponentially worse — and the work has changed everything.

But that doesn't mean I've arrived.

Healing Is About Form, Not Perfection

Think about any sport. In softball, baseball, golf — there is a form. A way to catch the ball, throw it, hit it. When you practice the form enough, it becomes second nature. Eventually it becomes innate.

That's what we're building here.

We're learning the form and why — because when life shakes the snow globe, when everything feels out of control, we need to be able to get back into form quickly. The form is what allows us to repair, to make amends, to come back to ourselves.

You can't repair without good form.

The More You Stay Present, the More Gifts You Receive

I took a yoga class recently and got a download mid-practice: the more you stay in the present, the more gifts you receive.

Think about one of those dollar bill machines — the ones where bills fly up and you have to grab as many as you can. If you're frantic and chaotic, you catch nothing. But if you stand still, stay present, you can actually receive what's coming.

Internal chaos exacerbates external chaos.

Presence is the practice.

Vulnerability and God

Here's something I want to sit with you on for a minute.

Your vulnerability — your willingness to say I need help — is directly related to how much you'll allow yourself to receive.

Whether you say God, Universe, Source, or something else entirely — there is an infinite force of love available to you. Always. You always have a pillow to lay on.

We work so hard to make things happen. It feels too vulnerable to rely on something we can't see or measure. But that vulnerability is what accelerates healing.

When your soul knows it's here for something — even if you don't know exactly what yet — you heal quicker. Get in touch with that level of innocence. It's there for you.

Why This Moment in History Matters

This is not a light episode. I'm going to say that plainly.

We are at a critical point collectively. The healthiest people are getting sick. People are hurting in ways they don't have language for. And the people who know — the ones who've done the work, who've felt it, who've seen it — have a responsibility right now.

Consciousness is rising. Children being born right now are incredibly evolved souls. And yes, it always gets worse before it gets better. But it will get better.

If you're listening to this, you know. And knowing means stepping up.

Harness Your Core Energetics

When we stay present through the emotions — through the fear, through the who am I and why can't I control myself moments — we are harnessing our core energetics.

Core energetics are directly related to consciousness. And mastering the form of our physical, mental, and emotional bodies is what allows us to surrender to the spiritual.

That's the thesis of this entire podcast.

Master the form → surrender to the spiritual → harness your core energetics.

If you haven't listened to the Core Energetics episodes yet, start there. That's where it all begins.

You Are Not Alone in This

I have listeners from all seven continents. Cities I've never heard of. And every time I see a new location pop up, I'm reminded of how expansive this work is — and how many people are quietly doing it alongside us.

So wherever you are in the world: I see you. I'm not ahead of you. I'm in it with you.

We are all cheering each other on.

Questions This Episode Answers

• Why do I still lose my temper even after years of doing the inner work?

• What does it mean to "master the form" in healing?

• How do I stay present when my emotions feel out of control?

• What is the connection between vulnerability and healing?

• How do core energetics relate to emotional regulation?

• Why does healing feel harder around family?

• What does it mean to harness your core energetics?

• Is it normal to feel like you're regressing on your healing journey?

• How do spirituality and healing work together?

• What should I do when I hurt someone I love?

This post is based on the full podcast episode. Listen to the complete conversation on How to Heal — available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and wherever you get your podcasts.

Lindsay Trimarchi Richter is a life coach, speaker, and host of the How to Heal Podcast. She works with high-achieving women ready to stop performing and start living. Find her on Instagram @howtoheal