Coming Back to the Body

That's the tricky part. We don't notice we've abandoned ourselves until we're so far gone that our body is practically screaming. And even then — we push through. We make the list. We do the things. We float through our days in our heads while our bodies are like — hello. Is anyone home?

This episode is about coming back. And you always — always — start with the body.

Your Body Has Been Waiting For You

Your body is not just a vehicle. It's your lived wisdom. Every experience you've ever had — the good, the painful, the traumatic, the electric — it's stored there. Your body remembers what your mind has tried to forget.

And the beautiful thing? You can always come back. No matter how long you've been gone. No matter how disconnected you feel right now. The body is always there — waiting — ready to unfold a newer, more evolved version of you the moment you give it attention.

The goal isn't perfection. It's presence. It's coming back to your body every single day — and eventually, every single moment.

Let's Talk About Food — Simply

I'm not going to preach. I'm not going to tell you to go vegan or drink green juice every morning.

But I will say this: meat is heavy. Vegetables are light. From an energetic standpoint — that's just true.

Whatever you're consistently putting into your body is either adding to its lightness or adding to its heaviness. And you need to be honest about which one it's doing.

The noise around food is overwhelming — I get it. Every expert has a different opinion and when you're carrying extra weight or feeling depleted you'll try anything. But here's what I keep coming back to: if you're in doubt, start simple. Salads. Water. Raw foods. Get in the sun. Move toward lightness.

And the bathroom conversation nobody wants to have? Let's have it. How you're eliminating matters. When your body is releasing properly — you feel it. That lightness is real. That's your body doing its job. As we get older and we burden ourselves with heavy food — that feeling gets harder to access. Pay attention to it.

A Breath is a Love Note to Your Body

I heard that a long time ago and it has never left me.

Every deep breath you take is sending love to your body. It's telling your nervous system — you're safe. You can relax now.

I use HeartMath to track my heart coherence — basically how regulated my heart is — and it is directly tied to my breath. When I'm stressed, my breathing gets shallow and quick. That's my cue. Out comes the device. Back to the breath.

Here's what most people don't realize: when we're stressed, the first thing we abandon is our heart. We go straight to our heads. Our brains get all the credit — but our hearts are doing the most important work. We have to stop abandoning them.

Long, rhythmic, deep breathing. Into your heart. That's the tool. That's always been the tool.

EFT: The Weird Thing That Actually Works

Let me introduce you to Emotional Freedom Technique — tapping — if you haven't met yet.

You tap on meridian points on your body while processing difficult emotions. The points: karate chop on the side of your hand, top of the head, inner eyebrow, outer eye, above the lip, below the lip, collarbone, under the armpit, and each fingertip. Back to the karate chop. That's the sequence.

Before you start — rate your stress on a scale of one to ten. After — rate it again. Watch it go down.

But honestly? You don't even need the full script. Just tap through those points when you're anxious, overwhelmed, spinning out. Your body gets the message: it's safe. It's safe. It's safe.

I'll link resources in the show notes. Just try it once. You'll feel the shift.

Touch Your Own Body Like It Matters

I went to Spa Castle in Queens on a Monday morning. Got a Korean body scrub. Reflexology. And it wasn't until I was in the middle of those treatments that I realized — I am so tired. I am carrying so much.

We don't know what we're holding until someone helps us put it down.

If you can get a massage — go. Regularly. But in between — try Gua Sha. Take a stone and work it slowly up and down your legs, your muscles. Or try Abhyanga — the Indian yogic practice of massaging warm oil into your body. Slow. Intentional. Present.

Because here's what's actually happening when you touch your own body with care: you're telling that little version of you — the one who went through hard things without anyone to comfort her — I'm here now. I've got you. We're going to feel this out together.

That's healing. Right there. That simple.

Start From the Root

The chakra system gives us a beautiful roadmap for coming home to ourselves. Seven chakras — root, sacral, solar plexus, heart, throat, third eye, crown. And you always start from the bottom up.

Root first. Grounded. Present. Connected to the earth.

Walk barefoot on grass. Lay on the ground and feel the earth against your body. Go in the ocean and let the salt water move over you. Pray there. Ask for support there. Let her hold you.

This is not hokey. This is ancient. This is your body remembering it is part of something much bigger than the to-do list.

The Work

• Eat lighter. Notice how different foods feel in your body — not just taste.

• Practice heart breathing. Long, slow, rhythmic. Multiple times a day.

• Try EFT when you're spinning out. Tap through the points. Give your body the signal that it's safe.

• Touch your own body with intention — Gua Sha, self-massage, warm oil. Show up for yourself physically.

• Get on the ground. Literally. Barefoot. In nature. As often as possible.

You are not a brain attached to a body.

You are a body that holds everything — and she has been waiting for you to come back.

Come back.

Lindsay Trimarchi Richter is a life coach, speaker, and host of the How to Heal Podcast. She works with high-achieving women ready to stop performing and start living. Learn more at www.lindsaytrimarchi.com and apply for The Upgrade.